My childhood experiences of self-harm
Sue writes about her experiences with self-harm when she was younger.
18th July 2017, 10.31am | Written by Sue Northcott
Let me tell you that it isn’t so. I know for a fact that it was definitely taking place in 1974, but I didn’t know then that it had a name.
I don’t know when it started for me, but it was a part of my life by the time I was 12 years old.
I’ve never been good at extreme emotions. I like to keep a lid on things. Keep in control. I discovered that those overwhelming feelings could be kept in control by pain. If I was careful I could kill the emotions and hide the solution. No-one knew.
I thought I was in control. In fact I was making the problem worse. I didn’t ever really deal with my feelings. I damaged myself physically. I kept dark secrets. Worst of all it fed my hatred of myself. Under the lid I so carefully constructed was a self-destructive vortex.
It eventually spun out of control and escaped in 1994. With a happy marriage, a good job and a beautiful baby, I tried to kill myself. Thank goodness, I failed completely. But it did frighten me enough to seek help.
Once my medication started to work, it was time to begin tackling my bad habits and building some healthier ones.
It took a while to find the things that work for me. I won’t tell you that sometimes the old methods don’t call out to me. But, usually, I can distract myself and find a better way. The feelings are still frightening but that’s OK. Sometimes you need to feel angry and upset just as much as you need to feel joy from time to time. Those feelings are what prompt you to change the world a little.
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